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The Surprising Benefit of Dating More

The One Great Benefit of Dating More and Often

Disclaimer: This post only applies to people whose true wish is actually a committed relationship leading to marriage — and within that group, specifically heterosexual women. In heterosexual relationships, it’s often the man who pursues the woman, and my female clients tend to want a man who pursues them, rather than the other way around.


Many women come to see me because they’re seeking support in how to share their wish for partnership in a way that feels grounded and confident rather than clingy or desperate.


Often, these women are in a situation where actions speak louder than words. They may have been on a couple of dates with a man, and they are waiting to see if he’s going to take the first step in moving the relationship forward like they want him to do.


But the waiting game can get difficult, and while these women want or intend to wait, they give in to the impulse after their feelings get very strong. They decide to initiate the relationship talk instead of wait for the man to do so.



By actively continuing to date others until the one you really want communicates to you that he feels strongly for you too and that he’s in the same place in life regarding readiness for commitment (specifically marriage, if that’s how you feel), you will likely have an easier time maintaining balance while you “wait and see” if he’s going to make that move and ask you to take your relationship to the next level.

You might surprise yourself — more than once, I’ve seen women force themselves to date other men to distract themselves from “Mr. Big” who wasn’t committing, only to become completely enraptured by the man who started off as a distraction and ended up their husband!


 

You may check out the trailer of Dr. Chloe walking you through the 10 Commandments of Dating below.



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