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How to Turn off the Litigator Brain (When You Want To)


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Navigating the demands of litigation can be exhilarating yet taxing, often blurring the lines between professional success and personal fulfillment. As a clinical psychologist working with law firms, I've observed the unique challenges litigators face in maintaining a healthy work-life balance. They are renowned for their sharp, sometimes shark-like, instincts and courtroom tenacity, traits that propel them to thrive under pressure. Yet, this drive can spill into their personal lives, causing emotional exhaustion and strained relationships. Acknowledging this duality is essential for nurturing resilience and well-being.


Strategies for Balance and Resilience

Here are some insights and techniques from my book, "Nervous Energy: Harness the Power of Your Anxiety," to help litigators harness their professional skills while nurturing a fulfilling personal life.


1. The Mental Shortlist

After work, switch off your litigator brain effectively with the "Mental Shortlist" technique. Create a personalized list of five positive and relaxing activities. For instance:

  • Recall happy moments with loved ones

  • Reflect on achievements outside of work

  • Engage in hobbies or activities that bring joy

  • Listen to uplifting music or podcasts

  • Practice mindfulness or meditation 


While everyone's list varies, the goal is the same: fostering a softer, more relationship-focused side, even for the most tenacious litigators.


2. Reflective Listening

Litigators often turn conversations into arguments without realizing it, applying the same strategies they use at work to their personal lives. To counter this, try a couples therapy technique called Reflective Listening. When your partner shares a problem, simply reflect back what they said. For example: 

"It sounds like such and such was really causing an issue with so and so, and it was bringing up a lot of feelings of X, Y, Z."


This technique shows your partner that you are listening and present without trying to solve their problems or win the conversation. It helps shift the focus from argument to connection.


3. Redirect Argumentative Thoughts

When you catch yourself in an argumentative mode, congratulate yourself on recognizing the habit. This awareness empowers you to change. Replace the urge to argue with questions like:

What does this person need from me right now?

How can I help this person?

How is this person feeling right now?


By redirecting your thoughts, you prioritize relaxation and meaningful connections— without diminishing your skills as a litigator. This practice ensures you are well rested and prepared to excel at work.


Conclusion: 

Achieving sustainable balance as a litigator involves integrating practices like the mental shortlist, reflective listening, and redirecting argumentative thoughts. These steps enhance resilience, deepen relationships, and sustain peak performance. By prioritizing personal well-being alongside professional excellence, litigators safeguard their mental health and elevate their effectiveness both inside and outside the courtroom.




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11 de set.

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