DrChloe.com Newsletter | December 2019

December 2019 Newsletter




Hello,

I hope you have had a wonderful 2019! Even if your year has been full of more challenges than milestones, remember that psychology studies show that WHAT happens to us is much less important than HOW we process it... so cheers to you for reading this newsletter to stay abreast of tips on how to handle challenges, reach your goals, and find fulfillment!

Are you into New Years resolutions? I am. We don't have to do them perfectly, but resolutions are a great way to at least TARGET things we'd like to try. In that spirit, I'm going to make a bold one here and now: I'm inviting YOU to meet with me every week on my YouTube channel. Each week, I'll be sharing a bite-sized, 10-15 minute video with practical tips on my favorite topics like stress management, relationship building, and goal attainment. I hope you'll click "Subscribe" on my YouTube channel so that you'll get an auto-nudge from YouTube each week when I share a new video.

I'm also getting more into Twitter and Instagram, so if you're on those platforms then let's connect there too!=) My handle is @drchloe_ on Twitter and Instagram, or you can just click the links above. I'm @drchloecarmichael on YouTube, or you can just click here!

Yours,

Dr. Chloe Carmichael PhD
Licensed Clinical Psychologist

PS If you love the newsletter or see an article you think would help a friend, please feel free to forward this to them-- it's an easy way to show someone you're thinking of them, and of course I always appreciate the chance to share with people who want fresh ideas!

Dr. Chloe on FOX5 News!

Happy to be back on FOX5 New York!
Check the video below for tips on dealing with toxic people.


PS: Want MORE detail than we could cover on the evening news? Great! See below for the blogs I wrote on toxic people and how to deal with them.

How To Deal With Toxic People (And Why You Really Need To)
In an ideal world, all of the people in your life would be helpful resources, willingly by your side to provide support, add joy, and keep you balanced. But let’s face it: We don’t live in an ideal world (if we did, I’d probably be out of a job!). Most of us will encounter at least one person in our day-to-day at some point in our lives who does the opposite. Someone who drains your energy, undermines you, puts you down. I’ve recently been asked to speak about the topic of... Continue Reading...

Part 2: How to Deal with Toxic People
In Part 1 of this blog series on toxic people, I outlined how to see when you may have a toxic person in your life. If you think you may have one, please know that you have the power to set boundaries for your own wellbeing! To keep it simple, you can use the acronym TOXIC to remember a list of options you might consider... Continue Reading...
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Dr. Chloe for WikiHow

How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special

It's not always easy to make your girlfriend feel special. You may feel like whatever you say comes out wrong, or that your attempts at romance are always thwarted. Or maybe you feel like showing up at her place with a DVD and a bag of Doritos is enough to make her swoon. Whatever you're struggling with, wikiHow is here to tell you how to make your girlfriend feel like the most special person in the world -- because that's who she is, isn't she? See Step 1 to get started.

Read the full article.
How to Cope with the Fear of Abandonment with a Mental Disorder

The fear of abandonment often goes hand-in-hand with some mental disorders, such as borderline personality disorder, bipolar disorder, major depressive disorder, anxiety disorders, and more. It’s natural for humans to fear abandonment to some degree, but if you worry about people leaving you all the time, your relationships and mental health can suffer as a result. Talking to your therapist and doctor is a good first step if you’ve been feeling insecure or overly dependent lately. After establishing a treatment plan, you can work on changing your negative behaviors and becoming more emotionally self-sufficient.

Read the full article.
How to Romance a Man

Whether you've been married for thirty years or dating for three months, it's always important to romance the man you're with. To romance a man, you have to make him feel special, make some meaningful gestures to show him you care, and always remember to keep your relationship feeling fresh and interesting. If you want to know how to romance a man, see Step 1 to get started.

Read the full article.

Recurring Column in Women's Health:
#AskDrChloe

Women's Health Magazine, published by Hearst, has a column by yours truly called... of course... "Ask Dr. Chloe"! In this column, I answer readers' questions on relationships, wellness, stress, and goals. Even though the magazine is called "Women's Health", guys can totally ask questions too! If you'd like to ask a question, please Tweet @drchloe_ and use the hashtag #AskDrChloe or just hit "reply" on this newsletter and ask your question. See below for this month's column!

Why The Third Date Matters And What You Should Know By The End Of It
Spoiler: probably less than you think.

So you've made it to the third date with the same person...congrats! I don't mean that in a "you should be grateful they still like you" kind of way—I mean, congrats to you for finding someone who you click with enough to see not once, not twice, but three separate and deliberate times. That's not so easy these days, as you probably (okay, definitely) already know.

That said, because of how rare the third date might be for some people, you might throw a lot of weight onto it. On one hand, you're more comfortable with this person than you were on the first date because, hi, you're no longer total strangers. But on the other hand, you're likely in your head more than usual. That's because society has, for whatever reason, led people to believe that the third date is the date—as in, if it goes well, you're suddenly a legit couple, a.k.a. exclusive.

Read full article.
www.womenshealthmag.com

Do holidays + family stress you out?
I've got you covered!

How to Survive the Holiday Season With Your Family - Dr...

This is a repost of an "oldie but goodie" blog on holidays and family.... if you have a perfect family that doesn't stress you out at all then don't bother clicking this one (lucky you:)

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In case you missed it... last month's blogs!

Wrongly Accused
The #MeToo movement has spotlighted countless cases of sexual misconduct, but unfortunately every spotlight has a shadow. In the case of the #MeToo movement, the shadow is the fact that human beings will sometimes make false accusations. As a clinical psychologist who has worked with men facing false accusations and with women who have admitted to making false accusations, as well as with men and women who have dealt with legitimate situations of misconduct, I contend that the “believe all women” mentality is... Continue Reading...

False Allegations of Sexual Misconduct: Basics for Young Men and Their Parents
The experience of a false accusation can be devastating to young men, especially if they are up against a legal or academic system that views an allegation as proof of guilt. False allegations can result in everything from expulsion from school, to job loss and legal nightmares– and overwhelming feelings of shame and anger. Moreover, young men and their families may face loneliness or social isolation due to the real or imagined circumstances that their social circle harbors a misguided premise that believing all women is always helpful... Continue Reading...

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